Tips to Planning Your Own Wedding and Using a Planner

Weddings take a lot of planning, surely you have realized that by now, but not everyone is great at planning. There are some brides that try planning their own wedding and realize they have not idea what they are doing or what they should be doing. Some couples don’t realize how much work is put into planning a wedding and how much actually has to be planned. It is not as simple as planning a birthday party, but we wish it were!

Some brides are the opposite. They love the entire process of planning their own wedding; it is fun, easy, and exciting for them. Each individual step is an accomplishment and the final outcome is so much more special to them than if someone else had helped plan their wedding. But not all brides are like this.

While some thrive from planning their own wedding, others will enjoy their wedding more if they have help planning it. This blog is for both types of brides. At Bohemia River Overlook, we offer three beautiful locations at our venue, allowing you to pick the one that matches your style the most. We can help make your wedding planning simpler and give you some tips and tools to make the process go smoothly.

Whether you are the bride who desperately needs a wedding planner or your are confident in planning your own wedding, there are a few things you should know and keep in mind. In this blog we will let you know what a wedding planner can do for you and if you truly need one, as well as how to make planning your own wedding easier. Read on to learn more!

Reasons to Consider a Wedding Planner

There are many reasons why you may need a wedding planner, as well as many benefits to using a wedding planner. If you are stressing out about your wedding plans and think you may need additional help, don’t jump straight to a wedding planner. The Spruce made a checklist of things that may determine if you need a wedding planner or not. Some of these include:

  • Being behind on your wedding checklist and schedule.
  • Not having a parent, sister, friend, or anyone else who know a thing or two about weddings and can help.
  • Having a destination wedding.
  • Having a short engagement.
  • Being overly stressed, overwhelmed, or dreading making plans.
  • Not being able to envision your wedding.

This checklist could be enough to tell you that you need or at least may want to consider a wedding planner. While you may think of a wedding planner will try changing your vision, push you to add elements you don’t want, or just cause you more stress, they can actually help a lot and make the entire process better for you and your fiance. Wedding planners have a lot of experience, know what works and what doesn’t, and can offer some insight on your wedding plans and how to make them better. Their knowledge of the wedding industry can help you make the right decisions and even help you save money.

Benefits of a Wedding Planner

A wedding planner may help you more than you expect them to. A Brides article discusses the benefits of wedding planners and how they can help you plan your wedding. So, what are the benefits?

Stick to the Budget

Planners will stick to your budget and help you save in certain areas while you splurge in others. Since they do have so much experience in the wedding industry, they will be able to know how to stretch your budget and get you more of what is important. They can help you save money on aspects that are not as necessary as others, allowing you to spend more budget in a different area. For many brides, it is hard to stick to the budget, especially as they find more of what they want included in their wedding.

Stick to the Vision

If you hire a wedding planner from the get-go, they will be with you through the entire process. They will know your vision, what you want, the type of wedding you dreamed of, and how to plan the perfect wedding to fit that vision. Planners work one wedding at a time, meaning they are focused on your wedding and extremely invested.

Deals With Vendors

Since wedding planners are experts in the wedding industry, they know others in the business. This means they may even be able to get you deals with the vendors and help you find the right vendors for your wedding. Planners can also make everything less stressful with the vendors. When the vendors deal with a wedding planner it is less stressful than dealing with the bride and groom directly. They will be able to take care of any problems with the vendors and touch on last minute details.

Coordinate the Entire Day

Wedding planners can help to ensure the entire day goes smoothly. They can take care of the reception and the ceremony, making sure everything goes smoothly and that everything is taken care of. This takes a lot of pressure off of you and your family. They can make it easier for you to enjoy your wedding day and wil be the ones double checking every last detail.

Wedding planners can help you through the entire process or they can help you with only the end of the process. Many planners will jump in and offer customized packages that can fit your needs. If you only want them for the day of, there is a good chance you can find that. And if you need a planner for the entire wedding, they can help with that as well!

Things to Know When Planning Your Own Wedding

But what if you don’t need a wedding planner? If you are the bride who wants to take on the challenge of planning your own wedding, or you know that you are going to love it, there are a few things you need to keep in mind.

In another Brides article, they give tips for planning your own wedding and how to make it less stressful. These tips may seem obvious, but reminding yourself of these throughout the process can help make it easier and help you stick to a plan.

The Budget

The number one tip is to make your budget and stick to it. Don’t spend extra on the centerpieces just because one included gold painted pinecones. Nobody will notice if you do or do not have the gold pinecones. It is easy to go over budget, but work really hard not to go over!

Work Together

Another tip is to work with your fiancé. That means he has to help you and give his input, and that means you have to let him do so! As terrible as his taste may be, it is his wedding too and he need to have some input. Give him choices that you can’t decide on and let him pick from there, that way you still like the option but he gets to help. Both of you also need to work together to decide the most important elements of your wedding. This will help you save money in certain areas so you can spend more in others.


While planning your wedding, it is important to stay organized. Use checklists, keep everything is a document on your computer, so you can’t lose it. This can help you with the budget, know what you have completed and what you still have to work on, and help keep the stress minimal.


There are many thing you can use to your advantage while planning a wedding. From wedding books and Pinterest to other couples who have recently had a wedding. These resources can help you know what is important, what is not, what parts of a wedding you really love, and what parts no one will even pay attention to. Think of different weddings you have been to and what you loved about it. Think about what caught your attention and what you barely noticed. This can help you decide what elements to add to your wedding and what you can pass up on.

Make It Your Own

This wedding is for you and your fiancé and that should show. Don’t worry about sticking to tradition or including things that people expect you to include. Make it your own and add some personal touches to it. This can help make the wedding more meaningful and personal. If you are not traditional, don’t have a traditional wedding. Remember, this is your day—do what you want to do and don’t let standards take over your wedding plans.

Take a Break

During your wedding planning, you are going to need to take a break every so often. Spend some quality time with your fiancé during the planning process. Take a day off to do anything but plan. This will help you destress and remember why you are doing this. Trust us, this will help.

Have Fun

This is the most, MOST, important part of your wedding day. While you have planned for a perfect and flawless wedding, there is not such thing and worrying about these things will just make you stress during this important day. What you need to do is stop thinking about the planning and just enjoy the wedding.

Planning your own wedding is not impossible, but it is not for everyone. Whether you decide to plan your own wedding or use a wedding planner, the most important part is that you and the love of your life have a great time on your wedding day.

At Bohemia River Overlook, we can help you with the venue part of your wedding planning, with our three locations you can find the perfect place for your wedding. Schedule a visit today by contacting us!

Weddings take a lot of planning, surely you have realized that by now, but not everyone is great at planning. There are some brides that try planning their own wedding and realize they have not idea what they are doing or what they should be doing. Some couples don’t realize how much work is put into planning a wedding and how much actually has to be planned. It is not as simple as planning a birthday party, but we wish it were